Are you emotionally resilient? I mean how well have you been able to adapt to stressful situations in the past?
How did you cope with those adrenaline rush and as your heart beat keep racing in the midst of a perceived difficulty or hardship?
Do you think you are in control of your circumstances or what happens to you?
In a scale of 1-10, where do you fall in the emotional resilience scale?
Now, before we delve in to what emotional resilience is. Imagine this two scenarios first.
You are to write a professional examination tomorrow by 9am and you have prepared so well in advance. You are set for another level in your career. This should mark a turning point in your life.
It’s 6am, your exam day. With your car, you head through your neighborhood down to the venue.
You discovered that the road construction workers on your route have obstructed the free flow of traffic with their work and you found yourself unable to navigate your way.
You packed your car at a parking lot. You took another route and board a cab. Unfortunately you were caught up with traffic. You felt helpless and drained. It lasted for several Hours.There was nothing you could do.
As a result of this, You got to your exam center 30 minutes late. You weren’t allowed. You were punished. You have to resit the exam next fall.
You are to write a professional examination the next day by 9am and you have prepared so well in advance. You are set for another level in your career.This should mark a turning point in your life.
It’s 6am, your exam day.With your car, you head through your neighborhood down to the venue. You discovered that the road construction workers on your route have obstructed the free flow of traffic and you found yourself unable to navigate your way.
You packed your car at a parking lot. You took another route and board a cab. Unfortunately you were caught up with traffic you were baffled.
You realized that if you wait for the traffic, you will definitely miss the examination. You decided to be resilient.
You board a motor cyclist. Something you would not ordinarily do.The cyclist navigated his way between the spaces of the vehicles.
Unfortunately, when you got to the highway, the motorcycle was halted due to a mechanical fault 20km to your center. You were flabbergasted but you decided to be more forceful.
You began beckoning on private vehicles who may be magnanimous enough to give you a ride. Alas! You got one.
The exam is over now.You are in a cab now headed back to where you actually packed your car. You were glad you made the exam. “phew… what a day!” you exclaimed.
Which of the scene would you love to be in? What was the difference between these two scenes? Resilience was the difference that separated both sides.
In one scenario, there was mental toughness—the ability to face obstacles with the view of surmounting them.
There was the attitude of being tough in the face of stressful situations or crisis.
There was ’emotional resilience’ . The word ‘resilience’ comes from the Latin word ‘resilio’ meaning to “bounce back”.
Resilience doesn’t mean you don’t face stressful situations but that you can adapt or cope with difficulties as they come.
It doesn’t mean that you don’t perceive the feelings of stress but you are willing to be resilient in the face of seeming difficulties.
Just like the bamboo tree during an hurricane, You are rigid but flexible. You bend instead of breaking.
People who are emotionally resilient are very flexible in their behaviors or in the way they adapt to stressful situations emotionally.
You won’t know how mentally tough or resilient you can be, until you face a major life frustration. When it seems like all hell is let loosed.
The more resilient you are, the more you are able to react positively to life’s difficulties or disappointments.
The ability to remain unruffled and unperturbed in the face of seemingly difficulties is an attitude that can be learnt.
Emotional resilience has tremendous benefits. When you are emotionally resilient, you are better at managing your physiological and psychological health bringing it to an equilibrium.
You also find out that you are better at thinking outside of the box. You feel this aura of having control over issues of life.
When you practice emotional resilience, the quality of your interpersonal relationships with people increases. You will be much better in working with people.
As you practice emotional resilience with success, you become better and confident at handling the inevitable difficulties or frustration we sometimes face in life.
“But how can we learn to be resilient? Are some people born emotionally resilient”? “Sometimes, I feel that the some situations are beyond my control. My mind sometimes feels weak”
Does this sounds like you?
Find out how you can build emotional resilience in our next article
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