In our previous article, we described what it means to be emotionally resilient.
Additionally, no one is born emotionally resilient, we all make choices to be mentally tough or not.
However, if you find it difficult to build resilience in your emotional life, you can learn it.
By just following this simple techniques. You are on your way in building emotional resilience.
First you have to identify and understand the event or scenario that led to the build up of your emotions.
what were the remote or proximate causes and the effect of the causes?
Secondly, you have to understand how the effect of the unpalatable event is affecting your mental equilibrium.
What bodily sensations are you feeling at that moment?
Often times, when people are emotionally drained, they tend to be absent-minded and are narrow in their thought realm disrupting their problem solving skills.
How then can a solution be found? Start by understanding cause and effect is a sure way of building emotional resilience.
Recite personal affirmations to build emotional resilience.
Your feelings can affect your thought patterns. When negative thoughts of defeats,pain, frustrations, disappointments floods through our minds during an emotionally draining period, you have to challenge it by engaging your mind to think positively.
How? Engage in personal positive affirmations. What do I mean? Personal positive affirmations are constructive positive words about yourself.
If you want to manipulate your mood and be more emotionally resilient , give yourself a positive affirmation.
For instance, if you failed an examination, you may recite to yourself : “I didn’t fail, I learnt another way not to fail, for that I am a success, next exam, I will be excellent”.
“I will get the job. I am always favored”. Just muttering the words might not be enough.
You need to pay attention to the words as you echo it in your mind. It has to be meaningful to your mind.
You could also prepare these affirmations before the stressful event or as a pro-active measure as they occur.
If you want to build your emotional resilience, give yourself a personal positive affirmations.
Learn to distract yourself.
Learning to distract yourself enables you to shift focus from what gives you that frustration or stress to another more positive exciting stimuli.
For instance, you could go to the gym and have a workout session.
Do you know that working out actually boost ones overall mood by releasing some chemicals such as dopamine — a feel good hormone that gives you the sense of wellness.
You will feel like you are in control. Of course, you are! This way you distract yourself from that emotional pain.
You could also do what you love doing like what I am doing right now—writing.
Yours could be designing, composing a song or arranging beats or creatively doing something with your hands.
With this technique, you distract yourself from your stress stimulator to something that relieves you of your frustration.
You could also take a walk or if you have a dog at home, you could take your dog for a walk out or play with your favorite pet.
Use relaxation and breathing techniques.
Learning how to calm your nerves and control your breath in an emotionally tensed situation is very important to build emotional resilience.
Many people find it hard to control their breath, but if done diligently could tremendously help your emotional life.
There are a lot of breathing techniques you can adopt under stressful situations but here is a quick one.
Count up to ten as you take short breaths slowly.Watch your diaphragm rise and release your breath slowly in that format.
Doing this always when mentally tensed will help you cope with life’s challenges
Cultivate problem-solving skills.
To cultivate problem-solving skills, you need to be flexible not rigid in our thoughts pattern.
when you are stalked or at a dead-end, that is the time you are to put our cognition into work.
Having a feeling that there should be another way out is a technique that builds emotional resilience.
You have to see above the present obstacles or dead-end. Your thought for another alternative to solve a problem is a mindset that puts our cognition to work.
In other words, you refuse to be perturbed by the unpalatable situations by seeing a bigger picture.
There are some events you may not be able to control but you can control the flow of thoughts by seeing a brighter side of an event.
Just by thinking that there should be another alternative helps you face situations strongly.
Glossolalia can build emotional resilience too.
There are somethings that is beyond the physical control. Especially when it looks you can’t feel your feet and you feel all hope is lost, try Glossolalia.
Move from the natural to the supernatural. Glossolalia is a heavenly language that conditions your mind, letting your spirit to be in tune with the Holy Ghost.
As you begin to speak mysteries, The Spirit of God begins to unlock mysteries that are hidden to you.
You begin to get divine insights on what to do.
As humans we are limited. However, tapping into Glossolalia gives you an unlimited solutions to problems or when you find ourselves at a crossroad.
As a quick reminder, here is a summary of what you can do in building emotional resilience.
- Understand that you are in charge of your emotions by controlling your thought patterns
- cultivate a problem solving approach. There’s another way out.
- Be behaviorally flexible.
- Use breathing techniques to stabilize your pulse pressure.
- Distract yourself for a while by doing something that you love doing. It could be listening to music, playing with children…
- If you are spirit filled, begin to speak in other tongues. There are some events that are beyond the natural. Building your self in the Holy Ghost is key.